For most couples who file for divorce in January, the decision to dissolve the marriage is often already made even before the previous year’s festive season.
Many of these couples wait until January to start divorce proceedings to maintain a semblance of normalcy for their children during the holidays. If this is your current predicament, it’s crucial to acknowledge that you’ll eventually need to prepare your children for your impending divorce. While having this conversation with your kids can be challenging, it’s important to remember that your children are better off finding out about the divorce from you than in any other way.
Preparing your children
Communicating openly about the dissolution of your marriage can minimize the impact the divorce has on the children. As parents, it’s your responsibility to assure your children that the decision to divorce is not a result of anything they have done. Remember to emphasize that both parents will continue to love and support them.
Once you’ve broken the news to your children, you should create a safe space for them to express their feelings. Actively listen to their concerns and answer their questions honestly (albeit in an age-appropriate manner).
Since this is such a significant transition, you should leverage all the support you can get to help ensure your children feel secure. On that note, consider involving a child psychologist or counselor who works with kids who are navigating this kind of transition. Their assistance can help your children navigate their emotions and provide coping mechanisms for the challenges ahead.
Navigating a divorce in January can be challenging, but with careful planning and consideration for your children’s well-being, it is possible to ease the transition. By breaking the news at a thoughtful time and cultivating a supportive environment, you can help your children adapt to the changes and thrive in their new reality.